About

You’ve probably been carrying the same decision for a while: stay, rebuild, or leave. A job, a city, or a version of yourself that used to fit. You’re not missing information. The honest version of the question is just harder than the one you’ve been asking.

That’s what I write about here. The careers that don’t follow the script, the quiet cost of becoming someone new, and what another year of circling costs. Essays that try to name things precisely enough that you recognize your version of them.

I’m Nate. Program manager at TikTok by day, with a small coaching practice alongside it. Almost two decades across IT, Trust and Safety, and regulatory work, plus a lettering business along the way. None of it a straight line, which turned out to be the point.

The Coaching

I work with people through the decision that won’t budge, as a thinking partner. Everyone around you has a stake in your answer. I don’t.

Start small with the free 7-Day Check-In (one question a day, by email): nateong.com/check-in.

Ready for the real conversation: nateong.com/coaching.

Decide before life does.

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